Be straightforward and honest about your feelings
Honesty is vital in every relationship. And when love is over, it is better to be straightforward and honest about your feelings than to continue to live a lie. It is not fair for your partner or for you to be in a relationship where one person is no longer in love.
And just to clarify a little, love is a decision that we make every day, not an emotion. Many people confuse the emotional excitement and comfort of being around a person with love.
Love is a decision that we make every day to continue to look for the good in people and love them no matter what. But once the decision to no longer be with someone has been made, then it is better to be honest than to hurt the other person.
Honesty is better than deception
There is no right way to tell someone that you are no longer interested in continuing with the relationship. Your best card is honesty and empathy. Imagine how you would feel and what is the best way that you yourself are able to receive that message. So just be honest and gentle.
Tell them clearly that your feelings have changed and that you are no longer interested in pursuing a future in the relationship. Will they be crushed? Absolutely. Will they ask many questions? Of course. So just be prepared to answer the questions as honestly as you can be and as gentle as you can be.
At the end of the day, it is better to hurt someone with the truth than to protect them with a lie.
Keya S. McClain
Author and Podcast Host, Keya’s Coaching
Original Publication: https://upjourney.com/how-to-tell-someone-you-do-not-love-them-anymore